Many of my friends tease me about being too optimistic in my description of the signs of the zodiac. Today I’m offering up some tough love astrology. Read your Sun, Moon and Rising sign with a sense of humor and a willingness to receive a kick in the pants. Remember it’s tough love.
Aries: Stop picking fights. Stop going it alone. Really, you don’t always have to be first in line. Cultivate a little patience! Slow down. Think it through. Please don’t say the first thing that comes into your head. Take a breath. Consider. Then communicate. It’s not all about conquest. It’s not all about winning. Curb that competitive edge with a little goodwill. Sit down. Count to ten. Chill.
Taurus: Enough sex, ice cream, alcohol and lethargy. Enough binge watching and blow out partying. And if that’s not your flavor, enough stubborn refusal to change. Enough sitting bull. It’s okay to change your rhythm. It’s okay to shake it up. Use your will to whip yourself into shape. Use your will to power through something good for all of us. Comfort is lovely and all that, but when we’re uncomfortable, interesting things begin to unfold. Use your bull-ness in the cause of beauty.
Gemini: Stop talking. Stop thinking. Stop thinking about talking and talking about thinking. Take a breath. Go on a silent retreat. Move your body until you’re so exhausted you can’t even think. Or talk. Choose something and go after it with a laser like focus. Don’t get distracted. Go deeper. Don’t settle for the superficial. Don’t ask any questions for an entire day. Feel into something larger than yourself and hang out there. Breathe more deeply than you usually do. It will help.
Cancer: Speak up. Speak out. Be heard. Feel it all, yes, but stop stuffing it. Respond to what you are feeling. Respond so someone can hear. Don’t attack with all the pent up rage. Open the release valve and begin to stand in vulnerability and expose the scariest bits. There’s no need to hide. Just bust on out. Don’t store up all the resentment and hurt and misery until you’re ready to burst. Take care of what you want to take care of. Don’t take on the burden of the world. You’ll get angry and sad very fast.
Leo: It’s about all of us. You don’t have to live in a spotlight. You don’t need all the attention you think you need. You don’t have to stand out. Just do your thing and stop worrying about the praise, the adulation, the response. Turn your attention to everyone else and help them give what they want to give. Look, you are a shiny human being. You stand out already. Don’t think about it. Just be generous with yourself. Give your gift. You don’t have to rule the world. Let someone else be queen for a day.
Virgo: Ouch. That hurts. Check the judgement. Check the critical voice. Check thinking that you can fix everything or everyone. Stop scanning the horizon for what is broken, unhealthy or in need of repair. For that matter, stop being so painfully critical with yourself. No one is perfect. No project is perfect. Be more compassionate about how human we all are. Stop working so hard. Stop being the martyr. Stop cleaning. Stop organizing. Stop compartmentalizing. Get yourself into a hammock and look at the sky. Now.
Libra: You’ll have to make a decision sooner or later. Make it. Stop weighing. Stop pausing. Plunge in. Do it. Don’t do it because you think someone wants you to. Don’t do it FOR someone else. Just initiate on your behalf. Stop doing everything for your partner. Do things for yourself and in the name of your own growth. Live your own life. Don’t be nice just to be nice. Be nice because it’s authentic. Oh, and don’t get righteous about what is fair and just. Just be fair and just. That will make all the difference.
Scorpio: Stop killing people because they’ve wounded you in some way. You don’t have to cross people off your friend list because of one transgression. It’s not as intense as you think it is. It’s not always life and death. Lighten up. Try to tell people what you feel before you want to punch them in the face. Be easier on yourself. Be easier on others. Cut it with the jealousy. Trust. Trust. Trust. No one belongs to anyone. And if trust is betrayed (and only then) make a decision about your own self care. Again, don’t kill anyone. If you are jealous of someone’s career, it just means what they have is exciting and you can work harder to get it. Consider it a challenge. Don’t stew. Just go for it.
Sagittarius: Settle down. Dare to make a commitment. Freedom isn’t just being unattached. Freedom is something inside. Absolutely travel the world but don’t travel to escape. Shoot your arrow to the bullseye but then retrieve it and continue in the same direction. Don’t get distracted. It’s not all about satiating desire either. Maybe reign yourself in occasionally. Christmas everyday and all that. Check your bluntness at the door or you’ll be removing your foot from your mouth often. Aim before you fire.
Capricorn: Life is not that serious. You are not responsible for everyone and everything. And you are not all alone in the world. And you don’t have to climb Mount Everest daily. You are also not in charge of everything and everyone so stop pretending to be. Surrender. Let go. Don’t be so chilly. You win more bees with honey and all that. Move your body and loosen your grip. Warm up.
Aquarius: You are not a lone wolf. You are not the one person in the world that nobody understands. You cannot solve your problems by hovering above and strategizing. You cannot make friends by remaining detached and aloof. Life involves feelings and you’ll have to learn to navigate the world. Don’t hide in the group. Be willing to shine when needed. It’s not humility to disappear. Show up when the group needs you and step forward. It’s not egotistic. It’s what is called for. Oh, and don’t be a rebel just for the sake of being a rebel. Be a rebel because it’s true for you.
Pisces: Stop running for the exit sign. There is no escape. The world is harsh, yes. But you are here to feel it and be in it and share your experience in it. Stop being overwhelmed. Start taking tiny steps. Stop hiding. Start showing up in small ways. You are tender and loving but don’t absorb the pain of the whole world. You’ll just be water logged. Be a priestess of compassion but not in your closet. Engage with the world. Stop crying in private. Cry where at least 10 people can see you and commit to it. It’s good medicine for everyone.